𝐁𝐄 𝐀 𝐌𝐀𝐍.

Be a man

I don't know what to do I don't know

what to

do you can act like a man you're a man

you are a man stand up and be a man make

the hard

decisions make the

sacrifices make the unpopular decisions

and become comfortable in your own skin

what does a man do he

fights

and he looks after his family that's

right there's a moment

Nobody is coming to save you

when every boy realizes no one's coming

to save him and that's when he becomes a

man and some boys never get there and

stay children forever there's nobody

coming there's nobody coming to save you

there's nobody coming to help you a

night and shining armor isn't going to

ride in and save you you are the only

one that's going to be able to save you

the fact that you still point fingers

and complain at other people because

you're not where you need to be in your

life it's not just in life it's your

life and I think that's what men forget

sometimes is that your life is your

responsibility your life you have to be

accountable for that 100% man can't

nobody do that work for you y'all know

can't nobody do it for you can't life

created this person me life life created

me to be this person that I was back in

the day and I had to realize man that's

okay man it's not my fault now I got to

go back and fix this [ __ ] though mhm so

a lot of this isn't your fault why you

do some things you do why you feel the

way you feel but no one's coming back to

save your ass we have to take

responsibility for ourselves for

creating it you're not living the best

life that you want to live you're not

the person you want to be you're not the

person the 8-year-old you wanted to be

and I bet you're not even taking steps

to become that person to be a man is

Have a spine and some balls

very simple you need only two things you

need a spine and you need some balls a

spine means that you are willing to

stand up anatomically you need a spine

to stand ere figuratively you need a

spine to stand up for what you believe

to be true which is in your heart of

hearts who you are now having a spine

also lets you know where you stand in

relation to the universe this is because

as soon as you stand up you cast a

shadow which sit situates you in a

specific Place between the heavens

literally the Sun and the Earth your

immediate surroundings unless you are

completely in line with the light there

is no way to avoid casting a shadow on

this

plane among other things this means that

as soon as you stand up that is as soon

as you make it known who you are and

what you believe in you will attract an

antithetical element in opposition to

that the shadow people will disagree

with you people will disapprove of you

some people will despise you and the

taller you stand the more some people

will threaten attack and seek to destroy

you this is part of the risk of standing

up and having a spine and this of course

is why we rightly respect people who

stand up for what is Right despite the

personal risk of doing so be a good man

don't be a nice guy and what that meant

in our world was hey man when you're

confronted with something where you need

to fit in and do something that's

against your character and your values

and beliefs you don't need to be a nice

guy you need to be a good man right

something comes up you need to stand up

for something that you believe in be a

good man don't be a nice guy you know

and that's I think it manifests itself

in every single area of life I think

it's a profound thing be a good person

right you you know rather than just a

nice person having a pair means that

you're willing to suffer the risk

associated with with being somebody a

specific individual with values and

beliefs it means putting your money

where your mouth is it means not giving

a [ __ ] whether you agree with me or

disagree with me not giving a [ __ ]

whether you approve or disapprove of me

not giving a [ __ ] if you love or hate me

it means if necessary putting your money

your relationships your career your

status your reputation and even your

life on the lime in the service of what

you believe to be true a man is his own

being unperturbed in his strength he is

Definition to be a man

like the great Rock which stands still

amidst the chaos of the ocean a true man

cannot be shaken from his purpose nor

misguided from his desire to protect

others especially his family and tribe

members he understands that all things

emanate from his inner Fortress which he

continuously builds strengthens and

maintains

a strong man knows he cannot pour from

an empty cup he is assertive and this

assertion is direct and calm primarily

this comes from his connection to his

values principles and standards which

guide all of his decision making from

the great man all things flourish

because he is attentive and most

importantly he is kingly in his own

nature you have to take full

responsibility for everything that you

do why be

subservient you must be the master of

your own kingdom that you can't just

walk into things with your eyes half

open you got walk into things with your

You have to take full responsibility of your life

eyes fully open you got to know what

you're getting into you have to take

possession of your life and my grassroot

background we don't back down from

anyone and that's what got me in trouble

I don't play games I don't kiss anyone's

ass and I'm a real man and that's why

that's regardless of being a fight

anything I'm a man that's why I want to

be a man and if I die I want to die a

Be a dangerous man

man be a dangerous man

now being dangerous is not being a

threat they're two different things all

right and it's not about going out and

lifting weights and getting a bunch of

tattoos and wearing leather jackets and

walking around with your chest and

shoulders up hulking around saying I'm

dangerous that's very rarely is that a

dangerous man those who have swords and

know how to use them but keep them

sheathed will inherit the world you

should be a monster you know cuz

everyone says well you should be

harmless virtuous you shouldn't do

anyone any harm you should sheath your

competitive Instinct you shouldn't try

to win you know you you don't want to be

too aggressive you don't want to be too

assertive you want to take a back seat

and all of that it's like

no wrong you should be a monster an

absolute monster and then you should

learn how to control it having the

ability and and understand you have the

responsibility to keep your family

safe is is is absolutely essential in in

in being a man and in in in providing uh

I I think having a healthy relationship

with violence having an understanding of

it and I also think you know being

accepting being kind being open uh you

know being generous being empathetic are

also uh you know part of being a man a

You are your word

man is a

word and I believe that's so true I love

that about the old school teaching is

you are your word does your word mean

anything or is just [ __ ] it's just

sounds in the air which today I see 99%

of people

it's like smoke doesn't mean when I talk

about need I'm like man when he used to

say something it's done I love that you

don't need a contract okay you can do it

for processes

but before anything like the old days

our fathers would sh done it's done this

I love so I don't want to talk to my

employees and just say we're a team

we're a family no when it [ __ ] hits the

fan I'm the first one that will back up

through action

not just words the personality of a

A man is his heart

person the ways of a person the thoughts

the Deeds the actions is all based

around his heart for what is a man a man

is his heart a lying cheating heart

means a lying cheating man a loving

merciful heart means a loving merciful

man a living heart means a living man

a dead heart means a dead man regardless

to man's title regardless to man's

wealth rank or position if the heart is

not great then he cannot be great but if

the heart is great that man remains

great under all circumstances rich or

poor large or small so it is the heart

that makes one large or small a man

You have to suffer

matures through early mornings late

nights pain loss

disrespect disappointments deep

reflection and moments of loneliness

with just you and

God age has very little to do with it as

you can meet a man who's 23 and a boy

who's

35 because always

remember it's the days that break a man

which are the days that make a man the

pain of a loss makes a man come back and

improve makes him stay up at late at

night practicing while everybody else is

sleeping makes this guy say one day I'm

going to prove to the world that I'm a

winner so going back to you there's

nothing wrong with competing there's

nothing wrong with losing as long as you

keep showing up and competing eventually

you're going to get your shot it is okay

to go through challenges it is okay to

have to fight through this is a part of

becoming a man's man and it's natural

that's game M the game is the

hardship some people have had it really

really tough don't get me wrong but a

lot of people haven't had it that tough

and they're just making a meal out of it

like some of the like dark depths that I

went to with you know consistent periods

of acute depression and bedridden

sadness yeah it sucked I don't identify

with that everybody's got challenges

everybody's got things that they're

struggling with man up yeah man up the

world is as easy and convenient as it's

ever going to be and you're complaining

about the fact that all the existential

weight of living everybody's got that

everybody has to face this stuff fellas

Life is hard

life is hard it's always been

hard from the beginning and it will

always be hard it's just the nature of

it but it's our

lot it's our place and it has been for

the history of mankind now I know things

are hard for some of you I know things

are

extremely difficult for some of you

things have been hard for me around here

I don't get on here and post it not

going to now no I'm that guy I'm that

guy it drives my wife crazy no I don't

want to talk about my feelings I'm one

of those old school guys you know when

you talk about men's mental health and

that men have to carry this burden and

men have yeah that's what we do guess

what somebody's got to get up I I have a

family right I have children I got get

up every day and go to work and I have

to you know do what I have to do and no

I I don't I mean give a [ __ ] about my

feelings you know you see These Guys

these days on social media like hey you

know talking about their bad day and

this happened and I'm and shut the up oh

I know get up get the work and do what

you got to do and and and be a man be a

man we all go through it I've had folks

get on here and comment Dwayne you look

you don't look good man you look tired

you look sad you look this you look that

look I I go through life just like you

do okay I have battles just like you do

I stand between my family in the

world just like you do and I take the

beatings so they don't have to and we

pay the

price the difference is how do you look

at it

how do you approach

it how do you deal with it how do you

admit it and see it for what it is and

then what do you do about it what do you

do about it you cry about it you mope

about it you drink about it you sleep

around about it you get mad and getting

fights about it you just hang around

just turn the world out just zombie

about it you fry yourself a marijuana

about it say Dwayne I'm sad dude that's

a part of

life you think you're the only man on

this planet that's sad say Dwayne I'm

going through depression well welcome to

the world welcome to the rest of us you

think I don't go through depression

sometimes you think I don't get sad

sometimes you think I don't just feel

wore out and burnt Plumb down to the

bottom of my

soul we all

do we all do

that's what sets us

apart that's what makes us

different that's what makes us men and I

don't mean ignore your emotions I mean

integrate your

emotions talk about them Manning up also

includes being mature about your

emotions it means crying in front of

your friends and being vulnerable and

open this isn't like some ancient

archetype of patriarchal toxic

masculinity this is me saying transcend

and include your masculinity transcend

and include the challenges that you've

been through we have to be emotionally

intelligent being emotionally mature

will save you from a lot of those

situations being emotionally mature will

help you when times are tough challenge

that you are facing might not be going

to war it might not be conquering a new

land it might just be conquering

yourself right so you are in your early

20s perhaps or maybe you're in your

early

30s many of the problems that you're

facing will evaporate and dissolve with

time what makes

Be you

you

uniquely

you I think a lot of times folks they're

not

comfortable because they're going along

with the society that's around them and

they're trying to fit in the

framework uh of what everyone around

them or on whatever social media they're

on says that they should be there's

roughly close to I guess about 8 billion

people on this planet uh but there's

only one you would you stand out in the

crowd for too long in my life and it and

it got me in trouble for too long my

life I wanted to be accepted growing up

I lied I did what I could for if you

like UFC and I didn't I love it I love

it man let's go watch it man be my

friend be my buddy that weak ass [ __ ] I

found out through this path of Life who

is David Goggins who am I so going

through all I did it alone there was no

trophy on the wall on the mantle that

trophy is in my brain no one helped me

get there no one paid my bills no one

did [ __ ] for me no one ran those miles

lost that weight went through I suffered

on my own and developed this man who

said that's who I am man you got the

power to change things

around your life doesn't have to look

like how it's been looking for the past

5 3 four years it can look different if

you do different things if you put to

work in if you show up for yourself your

life could look totally different you

start putting yourself in situations

that suck you'll find yourself yeah

you'll find it real quick except the one

thing that can change their entire lives

and that's looking in the mirror and

saying you man you did this to me you

made me this way and I'm going to fix it

and I'm going to fix it by controlling

all the things I could control I'm going

to control what I eat I'm going to

control what I drink I'm going to

control how I move I'm going to control

the information I put in my brain I'm

going to control how I treat people and

who I surround myself with and if you

control those things you are now in the

driver's seat to create what it is

you've always known that you were here

to create what most people do is they

back away from adversity but if you want

to see if you're a brave person what

they call the 4:00 in the morning

courage wait when things go completely

to Pieces when things are the worst when

your very best deal falls apart and your

rent is late and you're tired and you're

sick and everybody is mad at you and

your car doesn't work then it's the

person that picks thems up and says

nothing is going to stop me you know you

know the best quality in the world that

you can develop and I give it to you

because I made it my life's Habit to

develop this quality I hope I've got it

I don't know for sure but the quality is

to develop the quality of being

Unstoppable develop the quality of being

Unstoppable say in yourself that no

matter what life throws at me it'll

never stop me no matter how rough it

gets I will never quit and nothing will

ever stop me make the decision that you

can be tired you can be worn out but

nothing is ever going to stop you that's

a wonderful decision because then no

matter what life throws at you you pick

yourself up and you say okay give it you

know do give it your best shot as foni

says nothing is going to stop you it's a

wonderful feeling it's a wonderful

feeling it's a it's the basis of

self-esteem it's the only way to find

yourself you don't find yourself if you

like bench pressing and you bench press

all the time what are you finding out if

you like to swim that's all you want to

do is swim what are you finding out

put that you know people always people

talk about triple down on your strengths

right that's the weakest [ __ ] in the

world no triple down your weaknesses

yeah find out something about yourself

if you had to create a human what would

you put them through to make them

tough it probably wouldn't be a really

chill life what would you put them

through to make them patient you

probably wouldn't give them things

immediately and so it's like we want

these

traits but each of the traits has a

price tag attached to it and it's just

like do you want to pay the price tag to

get the thing and so I think if if

people refram the the period of life

that they're going through as the price

that they're paying out of their wallet

but the wallet is their time it's the

seconds of life that they're trading for

it then I think more people will be

willing to make the trade because at

least when I look at myself like when

I'm 80 something years old and I'm

looking back in my life I want to have

these traits but in order to have those

traits I know I have to go through these

things and I think for me that's given

me a lot of comfort in hard times you

could put in the work you could put in

the time you could say I am not going to

settle I am going to become exactly who

I'm meant to become because I know that

it's not just going to serve me it's

going to serve my family it's going to

serve my community it's going to serve

my city my state and my country and it's

going to create an immeasurable ripple

effect of people who know that they can

do it too and guess what that's going to

be hard but at the end of the day even

if you come up short

even if you don't become exactly what it

is you want to become you will have

created so much good in this world that

you will not have regrets when you die

this is real life 90% of your life will

suck 10% will be happy you may be lucky

guy and have a lot of money have a great

ass woman all this [ __ ] trust me

oneon-one with that guy he's missing

something his life still sucks cuz he

hasn't faced something that bothered him

his whole life something is still eating

that up almost everybody everybody

eating you the but maybe you found a

good way how I did Growing Up on how to

ignore that voice that's saying you

ain't facing some [ __ ] period man this

Do what you are supposed to do

is what I don't understand about people

especially men in the world today why

are they say so worried about being

afraid why are they so worried about I

was afraid every time I fought yeah I

fought anyway yeah like I don't let fear

guide what I'm going to do I do what I'm

supposed to do regardless of how I feel

so I don't see anything wrong with

feeling fearful I don't see anything

wrong with feeling stressed or under

pressure or anxious all these things men

are trying to get rid of and I talk

about men specifically I gender this

because I'm a man I don't know how it

feels to be a woman but all these things

that people are trying very hard to get

rid of from their brains I don't see why

they need to leave I will argue the

point that if I feel anxious and

pressured and stressed and fearful I

will get more done than if I was happy I

think if I was happy I'd just be

hedonistic and just wasting my time I

think that you get a whole bunch done

with these negative connotations and

negative emotions and I think that life

is suffering in pain and you're here to

go through it and you're and the sooner

you get used to the taste the more

successful you're going to be this is

kind of part of being a man it's like

you kind of got to it all up a little

bit I think so I think part of learning

is dying I think part of learning is you

got to die a little bit because what is

learning learning is me giving up on my

old [ __ ] my old ideas those ideas have

to die for me to be open to some new

[ __ ] and so me learning how to be a

better man and I had to die a little bit

You can change yourself

and you have the power to move you have

the power to create change you have the

power to transform your

life you got the power to do

that you are powerful beyond measure

just have faith in the fact that you do

not know where your trajectory in life

is going to take you and as you grow up

you're going to go I can't believe how

competent and powerful and capable I am

I can't believe how well balanced and

and and and progressed I am and how

people treat me differently uh that's

that's an absolutely huge part it took a

lot for me to be a man it ain't easy

it's the hardest thing a man a person

can ever do in the world is be a man

real dude y from working out to eating

to family to doing all the shitty [ __ ]

you ain't happy a lot correct a lot so

so all this [ __ ] that people want to

talk about oh man I ain't happy a lot

all right I ain't supposed to be so when

you live that way and people know you

ain't lying and they saw the work you

put

in it makes some feel Alpha makes the

alpha feel a little bit weird around you

so after while when you exceed the

standards of the military exceed the

standards of Navy Seals and you're

constantly going to this direction

you're some fat dumb black dude couldn't

swim now you exceeding the

standard starts to rub some people the

wrong way and I would tell people about

Be truthful

it the face of Truth is Open The Eyes Of

Truth are bright the lips of Truth are

ever closed the head of Truth is upright

the breast of Truth stands forward the

Gaze of Truth is straight truth has

neither fear nor doubt truth has

patience to wait the words of truth are

touching the Voice of Truth is deep the

law of Truth is simple all you sow you

reap thus soul of Truth is Flaming the

heart of Truth is warm the mind of Truth

is clear and firm through rain and storm

facts are only its shadow truth stands

above all sin great be the Battle of

life truth in the end shall win the

image of Truth is the cross wisdom's

message is its Rod the sign of Truth is

Christ and the soul of Truth is God life

of Truth is eternal Immortal is its past

power of Truth Shall endure truth shall

hold to the last a real person a real

Real man don't gossip

Alpha a real go-getter they ain't saying

[ __ ] about nobody correct that's why you

will never ever hear me dropping

somebody's name running my mouth about

somebody I don't know what you went

through I don't know what you're going

through I didn't wear the shoes you wore

when you were a kid I didn't grow up in

your house I didn't have your family I

don't know [ __ ] about you so guess what

I do shut the up up cuz real men don't

say [ __ ] cuz first of all we're too busy

trying to grind and be better correct

second of

all unless we know what we know we know

we shut our mouths but nowadays there's

not many real men who who who live by

that Creed of like you know if you're on

social media running your mouth and [ __ ]

you're just a [ __ ] correct you're

honestly that's not me trying to be some

after school special [ __ ] you really are

a [ __ ] M real ain't doing it women

don't care about that gossipy [ __ ]

get to work man correct that's it

Don't fit in

reminder that if you want to be

exceptional you're going to be different

from everyone else that's What Makes You

exceptional you can't fit in and also be

exceptional both have discomfort when

you fit in you have internal conflict

because you're not being 100% you when

you're exceptional you have external

conflict because everyone sees you as

different pick one when your friends

start to say you've changed remember

remember it's because they don't know

how to say you've grown there's a race

of men that don't fit in a race that

can't stay still so they break the

hearts of kith and Ken and they roam the

world at will they ranged the field and

they ROV the flood and they climb the

Mountain's Crest there's is the curse of

the Gypsy blood and they don't know how

to rest if they just went straight they

might go far they are strong and brave

and true but they're always tired of the

things that are they want the strange

and

new they say could I find my proper

Groove what a deep Mark I would make so

the chop and change in each fresh move

is only a fresh

mistake and each forgets as he strips

and runs with a brilliant fitful Pace

it's the steady quiet plotting ones who

win in a lifelong race and each forgets

that his youth has fled forgets that his

prime is passed till he stands one day

with a hope that's dead in the glare of

the truth at last he has failed he has

failed he has missed his chance he has

just done things by half life's been a

jolly good joke on him and now is the

time to laugh he is one of the legions

lost he was never meant to win he's a

rolling stone and it's bread in the bone

he's a man who won't fit in success guy

It's a lonely road

is a very very lonely road man very few

people are willing to endure the pain

the sacrifice and new diligence to be

successful it's an uphill battle and

along that road you're not going to see

too many friends you're going to See

Your Shadow most often you got trust in

the heart of hearts inside what you're

doing what you believe in is a worthy

calls a winnable fight see the thing is

for many people they've tried the same

path you're on and and they failed as

you walk this journey you're going to

see carcasses all over the place of

people that didn't quite have it that

should inspire you cuz you got further

than that person than that person but

you're not looking to get further than

you're looking to finish the only

expectations we need to have is of

ourselves did we put the work in today

did we do good today did we achieve our

goals and dreams today those are the

expectations that you need to have

difference between a winner and a loser

the de is there every single time just

the winner gets back up and does it

again and does it again until it goes

his way okay so now you're down that

path and you're all alone how do you

know you're on the right path how do you

know what you're doing is in the right

direction if you're

wondering if you're on the right path

look at the small things of Life how do

you do that when you wash your car you

spend an hour washing your car you

finish washing you put the hoses and

everything away in the brushes you come

outside to look at the job you did but

you know some spot's missing what do you

do

do you regrab the hoses pull it all out

and finish the job right or you say you

know it's good enough that's good enough

cuz the thing about good enough is we

don't know if it's enough Until the End

hour the final hour and everything's on

the on the line we that's when we find

out if it is enough and if we come up

short man doesn't that suck I promise

you

guys if today you never say good enough

tomorrow you'll always have enough what

I'm saying is a character of Who You Are

it's not the title that makes you it's

not the success that makes you the

character defines the success defines

the fame and it starts right there

championships aren't won in the theater

of the

Arena they're won in the thousands of

hours in the training room and the labs

and the 5:00 a.m. runs and it's raining

when everyone else is sleeping that's

when it's

won the heart of a champion is a light

switch that's always on it doesn't go on

and off when someone's watching it's

constant it's how you look at something

if your name's attached to it that you

do it right the best of your ability

every single time today is the day today

Change today....

is the day that I will look back 10

years from now and say that was the day

that everything changed and because you

took that responsibility and because you

became that person that you know you're

supposed to become the world will become

a better place