The Biggest Problem with Social Media Nobody Talks About
- Marcus Nikos
- Mar 25
- 19 min read

The Transparency Society
the Society of transparency is not a
society of trust but a society of
control there are not many things that
pretty much everyone tends to agree on
we live in a world divided over so many
issues and yet there seems to be a
message you will find on almost anyone's
lips from the most Ardent conservative
to the most virulent social reformer
there is something deeply wrong with
social media it has been blamed for the
rise in mental health issues among young
people political polarization and the
loneliness and onwe that seems to stalk
the modern world wherever it turns
despite this we don't often think about
the philosophy behind social media why
at the fundamental level can it be so
harmful how is it that a series of
pictures and words presented by an
algorithm seems able to wreak such
destruction on the human psyche well in
bual Hans the transparency Society he
analyzes social media as just one of
what he calls a culture of transparency
and here we will see what it can teach
us about the problems facing our world
gets ready to learn how we have all
become exhibitionists the effects Modern
Life has had on our ability to connect
with others and how a demand for
transparency can quickly morph into
totalitarianism as always bear in mind
that there is much about Han's work and
philosophy that I cannot go into here
and I fully encourage reading him for
yourself as you'll almost certainly get
a lot from it but let's begin by
examining the value system at the heart
of social media and the terrifying
message it sends to its users one the
The Society of Exhibition
Society of exhibition in classic
philosophical analyses of value we tend
to draw a distinction between the
intrinsic and extrinsic value of
something this intuitively reflects
whether something is valuable in and of
itself or whether it requires a relation
to another thing in order to gain its
value for instance human life is often
thought to have intrinsic value even if
all that existed in the universe was one
solitary living person many people would
say their life still has some value
however extrinsic value is the value
imbued to an object by its relation to
other things so monetary value is often
considered extrinsic because it is a
matter of what people are willing to pay
for a given thing when there was a boom
in demand for tulips in 17th century
Holland people were willing to Fork over
inordinate sums of money for the flowers
but nothing about the intrinsic
properties of tulips had changed it went
up in price because people wanted them
much more while the supply of tulips
could not rise to accommodate this
however Han draws a subtly different
distinction in values he contrasts cult
value or private value with exhibition
value the private value of something
simply depends on the thing's existence
so a sacred Relic in the Catholic faith
would have private value because it is
revered or venerated simply in virtue of
its being in indeed many important
relics are only displayed a few times a
year they are often kept hidden and
simply to be in their presence is
considered valuable they are ways of
getting closer to God after all but
exhibition value is different it is a
particular kind of extrinsic value where
something is prized for the attention
that it Garners for example sometimes in
order to help advertise a film a
production company will perform a
publicity stunt they might encourage a
lead actor to do something shocking or
provocative in order to get more press
for their film here the value of what
the actor is doing is not in the
contents of their statements or in the
ACT they are performing but rather
simply the fact that it's getting more
eyeballs on their film or to put it
succinctly exhibition value is the
currency of the attention economy Han
says that we have become increasingly
focused on exhibition value to the
exclusion of other forms of value this
is part of his General observation that
we are becoming more transparent Society
speaking he uses this term in a number
of ways throughout his essay and it
communicates a simultaneous abolition of
privacy and a general flattening of
complexity a society of transparency
demands that everything can and should
be known and observed but as a result it
refuses to look at those things that it
cannot directly observe for instance
they pretend that the deths and
intricacies of human mental States just
do not exist because their qualitative
nature will forever be barred off
however this emphasis on observation and
making everything public goes hand
inhand with the prioritizing ization of
exhibition value of course there might
be times where exhibition value is only
appropriate at a theater show the
director will probably care about the
contents of the show's message but at
the same time they will need to get
people to watch it and thus they'll also
have to care about the exhibition value
of both the show itself and its
advertising however Han is worried about
how we have begun to relate to ourselves
through the medium of exhibition value
and the greatest examples of this are
probably found on social media for
instance I once knew someone who would
take down a post on Instagram if it did
not get a certain number of likes or
views within an hour or so in a small
way this was them acknowledging the
Primacy of the exhibition value of their
post above any other metric it was not
that their main concern was the content
of their text or the photo that they
posted it was rather that the content
was just a means to an end of gaining
attention the exhibition value was the
goal and everything else was
subordinated to this in itself that's
not the end of the world it's just a
post on Instagram but we are
increasingly incentivized to prioritize
exhibition value in an Ever larger
portion of Our Lives most people who are
involved with social media in one way or
another will be familiar with this the
structure of the algorithms are designed
so that you care who has liked your
posts or how much attention your profile
has generally got this has become even
more extreme in recent years with the
idea that someone should craft a
personal brand which they can then show
off to the world and of course since
beautiful things get more attention this
has increased the already crushing
pressure to be physically attractive
we've even got to the point where
exhibition value is inextricably linked
to the structure of the economy where
attention increasingly equals money hell
we are doing this right now as you watch
this video your time is being measured
by YouTube who will then calculate how
much that time was worth to them and
give me a percentage of it but har
points out the more money that can be
made from exhibition value the greater a
role it is likely to take in our culture
but so what is that so bad well some of
the wisest thinkers in history on the
subject of well-being have encouraged us
not to place our measures of personal
value on things we cannot directly
control in stoic philosophy this
manifests in epictetus's division
between the world inside the mind and
outside of it saying we only have
control over what is internal in early
terada Buddhism we are encouraged to
develop large enough internal resources
to absorb the cruelty of the world like
a great sea in boia is the consolation
of philosophy he says that anything can
be taken from us except the functioning
of our mind and our ideas and so we have
excellent reason to place value on that
as our final reserve for happiness but
other people's attention is patently not
in our control if we begin to judge
ourselves by exhibition value then we
are placing our own value in the hands
of other people and moreover not those
nearest and dearest to us the people
whose opinions we already have respect
for but a nebulized abstract form of
attention and this in turn has some
disastrous consequences on our ability
to connect with and relate to others if
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Forced Intimacy and No Intimacy
forced intimacy and no intimacy many
existentialist philosophers over the
course of the 20th century placed a high
premium on the idea of authenticity Jean
Paul satra Simone deovir and Alber kamu
all at various points warn against
becoming an inauthentic version of
ourselves by this they meant someone who
is alienated from their own values
freedom and sense of meaning for example
in many of sra's novels characters are
tortured by the fact that they are in
some sense denying their own freedom and
acting in bad faith as a result or
alternatively that they are not
following the value systems that really
matter to them here authenticity is
often conceived of as a relation we hold
to ourselves we are behaving
authentically when our deeper instincts
our conscious beliefs and our outer
behaviors are in some sense in sync
however in recent years authenticity has
taken on a slightly more sinister
meaning it is increasingly used not to
encourage us to relate to ourselves in a
more fulfilling manner but instead to
Bear more and more of our private
thoughts and private feelings in the
public sphere to give just one example
of this let's look at the Trends on Tik
Tok of of people taking deeply
vulnerable emotional moments either of
themselves alone or with their loved
ones and then immediately sharing them
with the World At Large in itself there
is nothing wrong with this individual
choice but in Han's view it is very
dangerous if it becomes a pattern or
even worse a pressure because for Han
when we bear our entire selves to the
public world we simultaneously develop a
sort of forced intimacy with a whole
range of strangers while at the same
time damaging our ability to connect
with the people closest to us this is a
sort of counterintuitive thought but
stick with me as I do think Han is on to
something here if we expose too much of
ourselves in public then the first thing
that does is entrench the Primacy of
exhibition value we were discussing in
the last section it is taking a
potentially incredibly vulnerable and
fragile part of ourselves and assessing
its value by the attention and scrutiny
of others it is delicate enough having
your appearance judged by groups of
anonymous people you'll never meet let
alone your most intimate emotional
states yet for Han the demand for
transparency entails this sort of forced
authenticity the logic of social media
simultaneously requests that we be
perfect and hide nothing thus we become
full of insincere sincerity inauthentic
authenticity and ironic earnestness we
strip ourselves naked to the public gaze
with the implicit message that there is
nothing more to us than this this is
almost the perfect breeding ground for
creating parasocial the feeling that you
are emotionally close with someone even
if you've never met and are only really
engaging with them as an object on a
screen Han suggests that the incentive
structure of a society of transparency
encourages us to turn ourselves into an
object for the parasocial enjoyment of
others at any time we must give the
appearance of having nothing private or
hidden to us whilst also subjecting
ourselves to the constant Judgment of
other people who can freely decide to
reject us with no consequence if they so
please combined with the idea that we
are judging ourselves based on our
exhibition value and you can see how
this causes so much psychological and
existential distress on the other hand
Han is seriously concerned that all of
this forc intimacy will damage our
ability to form real closeness with
others for him true interpersonal
connection is built from a balance of
hiddenness and openness he is not alone
in this thought it is echoed by authors
like Eric from when he describes the
paradoxical needs to meld with someone
while at the same time somehow
recognizing them as a definite other and
that this is an essential component for
love and intimacy Han talks about this
otherness as well he thinks that by
turning ourselves into exhibition pieces
we run the risk of keeping too little of
ourselves hidden or just for the
privileged access of those we love and
care for at its most extreme he fears
this will turn into a sort of
self-destructive narcissism where
everything we do is not in service to
others or even really to ourselves but
to this strange exhibition of us that we
have created in order to absorb the
attention and agulation of other people
without caring who those other people
are in the slightest but we don't need
to dwell on such extreme examples to see
Han's overall point Aristotle once said
that if someone is a friend to everyone
then they are also a friend to no one
here he recognizes that forging a
genuine intimate connection with another
person involves first realizing that
they are different to you with their own
thoughts feelings and desires and then
taking the extra leap to Value those
thoughts feelings and desires over those
of other people and sometimes even your
own and arguably part of this is
reserving some of our hidden aspects for
only those people who we truly wish to
connect with for Han the more we lay out
on the table for public consumption the
more we turn ourselves into a makeshift
Art Exhibit an object purely for the
enjoyment of others rather than a full
agent who can form genuine bonds with
other full agents out there in the world
Han states that this interplay between
revealing aspects of ourselves to other
people while still hiding other parts
only to possibly be disclosed later is
an important component to what he calls
the eroticism of interpersonal
connections it is what maintains our
agency as we consciously decide who we
are going to open up to to what extent
we will and why we have chosen to do so
the demand for transparency the total
naked display of our whole self to the
whole world robs us of this freedom and
this leaves us both incredibly
vulnerable and made into a sort of
obscene object with no part of us left
unobserved or only observed by by a
Chosen Few ultimately Han worries that
if we continue down this path of forced
public intimacy we are taking some of
our deepest and most fragile parts and
commodifying them so that other people
can dine on the buffet of our
deconstructed Soul all while we become
ever lonier for lack of committed
connection with real other people
whether or not you think things could go
this far Han's General message is
definitely worth listening to especially
as we're incentivized to be more and
more vulnerable in the on online public
sphere what is the cost we pay for all
this exposure and with this level of
transparency comes another Insidious
effect it's something thinkers have been
worried about for centuries but this
time it might just come into fruition
The Uninformative Deluge
three the uninformative Deluge in Jorge
Le bores the library of Babel we are
presented with a sort of Hell consisting
of an infinite Library containing every
possible combination of letters that
will fit in a 410 page book the problem
of the people living in this hell is not
a lack of raw data they have quantity of
information in droves but any Denison of
this universe lacks any way to make
sense of the information to sort through
it in a way that brings what they are
interested into the surface and leaves
the rest they just have bare
unadulterated volume and it would drive
many of them mad as a result this is a
pretty good articulation of just one of
the ways in which Han thinks a society
of transparency has altered our
relationship with information we now
have so much of it that it's becoming a
problem for much of human history
information was a pretty scarce resource
books were often quite rare and literacy
rates were so low anyway that accessing
the information within the book was its
own challenge but today we often have
the opposite issue we are constantly
bombarded with far more information than
we could ever take in or process and
this is increasingly centralized around
social media platforms with 41% of 18
to2 four-year-olds in the UK describing
social media as their main gateway to
news but Han has a series of concerns
about this situation which he thinks
will undermine our ability to engage
with much of this information in any
meaningful way for a start he observes
that within a culture of transparency
more information is considered better
often without much regard to its quality
or utility this does not necessarily
come from a place of malice but it has
unfortunate consequences later down the
line both at the social and IND idual
level first on a broader scale it
incentivizes mining as much information
as possible about other people this is
most obvious at the corporate level
where customer data is a hot commodity
precisely because if you know more about
someone you can better predict what they
are likely to buy Additionally the
attention economy means it is often
advantageous to Just Produce some
shocking information that will get a lot
of clicks rather than considering the
value of the content of the information
itself Han thinks we are incentivized to
produce and collect insane levels of
information as well as share enormous
amounts of data about ourselves and this
is not necessarily a good thing secondly
the excess of information means that it
is impossible to give each individual
piece its requisite level of care
attention and respect in his other works
Han talks about the value of dwelling on
single ideas for a long time he praises
the sort of gentle exploratory
concentration that emerges when we allow
our mind to slow down and occupy itself
with a single object
however if it is more profitable to have
our attention flitting from one shallow
piece of information to the next then we
are completely robbed of this experience
we only have time to view something make
a snap judgment about it and then move
on the flow of information deprives us
of deeper kinds of engagements with
ideas like Insight or experienc trained
intuition because we're often not given
enough time to reach these levels of
thought Han is not saying that this has
become impossible but rather that social
pressures run in entirely counter to
this and if we're going to recapture
this ability we will need to make a
concerted conscious effort to do so
flying in the face of an established
incentive structure and this is hard it
is similar to an observation made by
Danish philosopher saen kard in his
essay the present age where he predicted
that an excess of information will lead
to just as much confusion over what is
true as a lack of information would as
Han puts it today the growing mass of
information is crippling all higher
judgment
often less knowledge and information
achieve something more by this he
certainly does not mean that having a
pity of information is a good thing it
is rather that too much information with
no sense of what is reliable or
important or valuable means that we will
become overwhelmed rather than informed
kard predicted this would encourage an
attitude where people are very reluctant
to commit to any position he thinks it
will incentivize an aesthetic view on
information where the quantity of
information becomes a good in itself
rather than just one step along a search
for truth deprived of the ability to
establish what is the case we would
Instead try to just have the opinion
that is the cleverest or the most
invogue after all if we can't get a
clear view on how things actually are we
may as well take the most socially
advantageous position additionally Han
is very skeptical of the way algorithms
increasingly guide the information we
have access to suggesting that this is
likely to create increasingly isolated
and divided bubbles of people it is not
just that we are bombarded with
information but specifically information
that we want to see we are kept in
algorithmic cages which reinforce our
own views and only expose us to
opposition we have indicated we desire
this does not necessarily mean we take
pleasure in seeing this opposition but
rather that we react to it in a way that
encourages engagement either becoming
angry or frustrated or ridiculing the
oppositional Viewpoint either way we are
not exposed to other views except when
we have implicitly encouraged it with
our own prior Behavior thus Han thinks
we are encouraged to become a sort of
intellectual narcissists shaping the
world we see around our pre-existing
beliefs rather than the other way around
while we have always had cognitive
biases they are now exploited and played
to on an unprecedented scale and Han
thinks this will have disastrous
consequences as we become insular and
isolated while at the same time
exhausted from the constant stream of
information blasted into our synapses at
every waking moment but his unsettling
Proclamation
do not stop there perhaps Han's most
dire critique of the transparency
Society is not just that it is
unpleasant or ruins our ability to
connect with others or reduces us to
images but that it is fundamentally
totalitarian in nature four transparency
Transparency and Control
and control if you've got nothing to
hide then you've got nothing to fear
this is the general logic behind an
awful lot of surveillance programs Han
traces the sentiment back to rouso who
suggested that citizens should be
totally open about their activities
because ultimately they should not be
doing anything that would attract social
censure if it were discovered one reason
Plato had the ruling classes of his City
live in one big communal building was so
that they could all keep an eye on one
another a lack of privacy is meant to
guarantee loyalty and good behavior
surely anyone who was a morally
upstanding person would not mind people
knowing everything about them
considering that they would only find
good things fan surveillance used to be
the primary domain of the state and an
expression of asymmetric power think of
Stalin's nkvd or Roose Beer's Committee
for Public Safety these were systems of
surveillance and Punishment which use
the vast resources of the nation to
enforce a certain set of laws principles
and ideas the archetype of this is
Jeremy bentham's panopticon where a
single Central guard can watch any
prisoner at any time so in practice
everyone has to act like they are being
watched at all times Han says this is no
longer a complete description of the way
surveillance works in the modern day for
a start he points out that much of the
data we give on ourselves is handed over
semi voluntarily as the price for using
various online platforms we Fork over
some of our information often including
the contents of our messages and we get
to use Facebook or Instagram or the like
for free there has also been a shift in
the underlying logic behind much of the
monitoring whereas in the past reasons
for surveillance had been to do with
morality or maintaining political order
now Han thinks they are mostly economic
for the most part we are not surveilled
to be thrown in prison but to make a
profit Han is not suggesting that this
is worse just that it's different and
that that difference is worthy of note
obviously having someone sell you
something and being thrown in a goolag
are incomparable in terms of their
emotional consequences next Han points
out we've gone through a real
decentralization of surveillance in the
past it was simply not practical for the
everyday citizen to surveil another
everyday citizen we did not have the
technology the only groups with the
tools necessary to conduct surveillance
campaigns were government intelligence
organizations but it's fair to say this
has changed I am hardly the first to
point out that we now walk around with
the kind of easy access Recording
Technology that would give lenti
barrier's corpse localized riger Morse
but Han goes one step further and points
out how this fundamentally changes the
power Dynamic of surveillance while not
really making anyone happy on a huge
number of occasions in recent years we
have seen people recorded and posted
online without their consent with the
added implication that they are somehow
worthy of scorn or censure from alleged
infidelity to airing family disputes to
accusations of rude conduct we have
become very used to seeing the fruits of
homemade surveillance pinned up on
social media for all to see in effect
Han says we are not just surveilled from
a central position but instead have
become used to surveiling one another
and any objection to this comes up
against the old totalitarian Mantra if
you've got nothing to hide you've got
nothing to fear only now it's not coming
from a secret service agent but a
teenager on Tik Tok we are still denied
privacy on a massive scale but now we
are given the consolation of being one
of the prison guards as well as one of
the prisoners and it is this social
pressure to be open and transparent to
not just be surveilled but consent to
being surveilled that marks out the
situation as different to quote Han
directly the Society of control achieves
affection when subjects bear themselves
not through outer constraint but through
self-generated need the need to put
oneself on display without shame at this
point we could take an orwellian route
and talk about all of the negative
aspects of living as if you're being
constantly watched or invoke Kafka and
satra on the existential fear of being
observed but instead Han takes a unique
angle on things he discusses how extreme
transparency erodes a very precious
resource Trust for Han Mutual trust is
at the heart of the logic by which we
allow others to be free and gain freedom
ourselves someone's motivations desires
and planned actions are hidden from us
and yet we trust that they will not harm
either us or other people this means
that we can allow both privacy and
freedom confident that this will not put
ourselves or our loved ones at risk but
Han argues that a buildup of trust
relies on a certain lack of information
in a culture of surveillance and
transparency we become unable to
establish trust because most people
would behave well if they thought they
were being watched thus Han suggests
that rather than promoting trust
transparency is only necessary when we
feel unable to trust and too much
information will breed suspicion about
what someone would do if they weren't
being observed all the time thus
reinforcing the motivation for
surveillance in the first place
sometimes this is only appropriate we
might not want to trust our governments
to behave without being kept in check by
an informed populace because the stakes
are so so high but there is danger at
the interpersonal level of not only
eliminating trust but also the means to
gain trust Han argues that a culture of
recording one another and sharing it
meaning that every private moment
becomes potentially public is trading in
a very significant freedom for an
incredibly poultry one in the freedom to
live unrecorded and unjudged we gain the
ability to play with ideas craft our
characters reflect think and speak
freely and have a break from the Crush
gaze of the other that can cause us such
stress and in return all we are given is
the ability to take someone else's
Freedom away what is the freedom to
surveil compared with the freedom of not
being surveilled ourselves it's a bit
like being told that you're about to get
beaten up but not to worry in return you
will also get to beat someone else up it
is a recipe for resentment anxiety and
paranoia and the only people who have
anything to gain from it are the
spiteful and those making money of it
Han spends more time cra ing diagnoses
than Solutions but if we were to take
something away from his essays it might
be this the axiomatic Goods of a
transparency society that more
information is always better that
something should be judged by its
ability to retain attention and that
privacy is inherently suspicious these
things should be held up to careful
scrutiny we should be hesitant about
accepting them wholesale and instead
consider them as we would any other
broad sweeping statement about how
Society should function carefully
weighing up the pros and cons before or
giving our Ascent or our dissent to them
because if Han is to be believed we are
playing a dangerous game and the stakes
are as high as the very concept of a
private life but if you want to see how
han turns his philosophy on another
significant aspect of modern life then
check out this video to explore his
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