For This Reason Women PREFER Dangerous Men - Sigmund Freud

look man no one's ever told you this but

I have to tell you now what they've told

you about what women want it's a pious

lie disguised as tenderness a polished

narrative to avoid hurting feelings so

you keep believing that if you're kind

attentive available you'll end up being

the chosen one but there's something

they never told

you often what a woman says she wants

and what actually turns her on are two

different things freud hinted at it

outright in that mix of genius and

provocation of

his female desire is not logical it's

not orderly it doesn't follow the laws

of stability or security it's chaotic

it's deep it's unconscious and if you

don't understand this you're doomed to

become one of those men who crawl for

emotional crumbs convinced that the more

they give the more they'll

receive false because here's the truth

no one tells you the more you try to

please the more you dilute yourself the

more you give in the more invisible you

become the more you bend over backward

to please the further you move from what

really ignites a woman's deep desire

tension mystery emotional

resistance they don't want an emotional

slave they want a rock they don't seek

perfect explanations or sensitive

speeches they seek a firm impenetrable

presence that doesn't bend that doesn't

tremble when they tremble that doesn't

need validation to stand tall the man

who disturbs them who drags them to the

edge of emotional abyss is not the one

who emotionally bears himself at every

opportunity it's the one who holds back

the one who chooses when to show himself

the one who never gives everything

because he knows that mystery is power

and you who thought being the nice guy

was the strategy who thought that if you

were always available always willing

always smiling you would win her heart

number what you've won is contempt

disguised as courtesy you've won a spot

on her emotional waiting list just after

the guy who doesn't call for 2 weeks but

when he appears he shakes her

inside do you know why because that man

isn't desperate because that man doesn't

beg because that man is

self-sufficient and no it's not about

playing the jerk it's not about

manipulating or pretending it's about

rebuilding yourself from within

understanding that if you break every

time someone doesn't reply to your

message you're not ready that if your

mood depends on whether or not they look

at you you're still a child disguised as

an adult freud spoke of the unconscious

as that place where the most primal the

most hidden impulses are kept the ones

we don't even admit to ourselves and in

that dark place full of symbolism and

repressed desires hides a brutal truth

female desire is not tied to peace it's

tied to intensity to what makes her

doubt to what makes her nervous to what

she can't control what she doesn't

understand is what she can't stop

thinking about so what are you doing

trying to be predictable what are you

doing showing yourself as an open book

desire needs gray areas it needs gaps it

needs unanswered questions the mistake

is not showing your humanity the mistake

is showing it to someone who hasn't

shown they can handle it you're giving

away your secrets to someone who didn't

ask for them you're revealing your fears

to someone who hasn't even given you a

reason to trust

them seduction that word that seems

outdated is still the key but not the

cheap seduction of rehearsed lines and

hollow compliments i'm talking about

seduction that comes from self-control

personal mastery the ability to be

present without being dependent to look

without begging to desire without

pleading women don't desire the one who

kneels they desire the one who remains

standing even when everything shakes the

one who knows how to say no the one who

has his own world an inner universe that

not everyone can access because that

universe becomes their obsession because

every time they touch it they feel like

they're discovering something forbidden

and the forbidden is

irresistible the problem is that most

men today have been tamed by a narrative

that emotionally castrates them they've

been told that being sensitive means

being vulnerable and that being

vulnerable is the same as being weak so

they expose themselves completely they

cry on the first date they confess

traumas without being invited they

become transparent too

soon and then they don't understand why

despite all their honesty women pull

away they pull away because the mystery

died because there's nothing to discover

because the tension faded a man who is

desirable is not the one who reveals

everything it's the one who chooses what

to reveal it's the one who masters his

emotions not the one who throws them up

it's the one who listens but doesn't

melt it's the one who accompanies but

doesn't lose himself in the other that

man is an anomaly in a world of broken

mirrors that man is a magnet don't be

confused coldness is not the key

coldness is a refuge for those who have

nothing inside the key is containment

it's being able to feel without being a

slave to the feeling it's being able to

love without losing yourself it's being

able to desire without becoming a beggar

that is the strength that Freud glimpsed

when he spoke of female desire as a

force activated by the unattainable the

one that doesn't give in the one that

doesn't beg the paradox is brutal the

more you contain yourself the more

intensely they desire you the more

focused you are on your path your

mission your direction the more you

become an enigma and the enigma is the

fuel of desire look at yourself in the

mirror and ask how much of yourself have

you given away without it being asked

how many times have you begged for

attention disguised as interest how many

times have you confused closeness with

urgency you're exhausted because you've

tried to be everything to everyone

you're empty because you've given

without measure you're frustrated

because you never understood that desire

is not earned it's provoked and it's

provoked by what isn't easily given the

man who seduces from the soul is not the

one who shouts it's the one who vibrates

differently it's the one who doesn't

need to prove anything because he

already knows his worth it's the one who

walks firmly because he knows his path

it's the one who in the face of someone

else's emotional chaos doesn't crumble

he holds it that firmness is magnetic

that independence is addictive because

it represents everything most people

don't have because in a world of

emotional excess self-control is luxury

and you can be that luxury but first you

have to kill the beggar that lives

inside you the one who begs the one who

waits the one who pleads you weren't

born to beg for love you were born to

radiate

presence and here's the final twist the

part most men refuse to

accept the more you need yourself the

less you need to be loved

and when you don't need to be loved you

become

irresistible because you no longer give

from lack you give from abundance you no

longer love to fill a void you love

because you have more than

enough freud knew this before anyone

female desire is activated when there

are no certainties when logic fails when

the soul twists in unanswered questions

they want to feel like they have you but

not possess you they want to get close

but not invade they want to touch you

but not fully reach

you and you what do you want to be a

comfortable answer or an unforgettable

question choose wisely because that

desire you think you can provoke with

flowers and poems actually awakens in

the darkness of the

inexplicable don't domesticate it don't

explain it provoke it because in the end

the man who doesn't need to be desired

is the one who is the most and here is

where another aspect comes in that few

understand and is directly linked to

female desire contrast there is no

desire without contrast no attraction

without opposites what excites is not

uniformity it's the living contradiction

and the man who awakens that in a woman

is not the one who is defined by a

single layer but the one who carries

layers that aren't easily seen not the

one who is always cold nor the one who

is always warm but the one who can be

ice and fire and never when

expected that is the man who leaves a

mark not for what he gives but for what

he contains for what he insinuates but

doesn't concede female desire is ignited

in the tension between what is shown and

what is hidden between what is offered

and what is

withdrawn it's that eb and flow that

creates obsession the one that activates

fantasy and fantasy brother is much more

powerful than any reality the mistake is

thinking that by being completely good

completely giving completely transparent

you'll conquer something but absolute

things don't seduce they bore because in

the absolute there's no surprise and

desire feeds on the unexpected on what

breaks patterns on what can't be

predicted when a woman thinks she

already has you figured out the mystery

dies and with the mystery desire dies

look around you most men today are

desperate to be predictable to be safe

to not make mistakes and in that attempt

to be perfect they become flat the edge

disappears the sharpness evaporates they

don't discomfort they don't challenge

they don't provoke and therefore they

don't leave a mark because it's not

enough to be liked

liking is easy what's difficult is

fascinating what's difficult is being

remembered when you're not around what's

difficult is having them think of you

for no apparent reason and that's not

achieved by being correct it's achieved

by being

unforgettable now listen closely one of

the biggest triggers of female desire is

not physical it's symbolic it's what you

represent what you awaken in her

imagination if you represent comfort

you'll be valued but if you represent

challenge you'll be desired if you

represent a peaceful life they'll want

you as a stable option but if you

represent depth mystery emotional

mastery you'll be impossible to

ignore women even though they say they

seek peace are drawn to controlled chaos

and I repeat controlled chaos it's not

about being a destructive whirlwind it's

about being a storm that doesn't need to

explode that contained energy is what

disarms them it's knowing you could burn

but choose not to because self-control

is more erotic than any declaration of

love and here comes another essential

nuance nonverbal

language silence the gaze held without

hesitation the pause before

responding those small gestures that

indicate that you're not nervous that

you're not seeking approval that you can

stay with her or without her and still

be just as complete that's perceived

that's sensed that alters because it's

not what you say it's what you project

it's not what you promise it's what you

are without needing to say it we live in

an era of constant exposure everyone

talks everyone shows everyone yells to

be seen and do you know who stands out

in the middle of that noise the one

who's silent the one who observes the

one who retreats the one who instead of

proving simply remains because his mere

presence communicates more than a

thousand words that man is rare he's

different and different

attracts now let's talk about another

brutal

trap emotional self

annihilation many men when they enter a

relationship or the game of seduction

begin to distort themselves they soften

they mutate based on what they think she

expects they stop making their own

decisions they change their opinions

they renounce their essence why to fit

in to be the

ideal but the ideal is boring the ideal

is artificial and the artificial doesn't

connect with the unconscious and it's

there where desire

fades because in that attempt to adapt

you become just another one another who

doesn't discomfort who doesn't challenge

who doesn't bother but also another who

isn't interesting who doesn't vibrate

who doesn't ignite anything because no

one desires a reflection of themselves

they desire the one who moves them the

one who stirs their gut the one who

confronts them and at the same time

holds them and that can only be done by

someone who has built themselves from

the inside who doesn't need to disguise

anything freud said it plainly the

unconscious mind is full of impulses

that don't accept social morality desire

has no rules desire is not fair desire

is not rational so if you behave with

logic with rules with predictable

morality you're going to appeal to her

brain but not her guts and the gut is

what decides desire is not built in the

conscious mind but in the most primitive

part of being and do you know what

activates the primitive the unexpected

the untameable what you can't put in a

box you can be kind you can be polite

you can be correct and still be

completely

forgettable but if you're unpredictable

if you have a shadow if you don't always

act as expected but do so with internal

coherence then a crack

opens a crack where obsession enters and

what is the core of all this the power

of your frame your mental structure what

you're willing to allow and what you'll

never yield when a woman feels that your

frame is stronger than her emotional

chaos something activates inside her she

doesn't understand why but she starts to

see you differently because while

everyone else breaks in the face of her

mood swings you remain steady while

everyone else is desperate to please you

observe without begging and that deep in

her psyche is

irresistible so no don't make yourself

smaller to fit into her world make her

want to climb to enter yours don't tell

her you're willing to do anything to be

with her tell her without saying it that

you're already complete and that if she

wants in she'll have to earn it that not

everyone gets in that not everyone stays

not for ego but for

standard because your peace your purpose

your path are worth more than momentary

validation and here's where I make it

clear a man who respects himself is a

magnet a man who doesn't negotiate his

values to be liked becomes magnetic he's

not the most handsome he's not the

strongest he's the one who doesn't kneel

he's the one who knows that even in the

storm his inner axis doesn't move that

man is not found every day and when a

woman finds him even if she doesn't

understand it she's trapped between

fascination and confusion and you do you

still want to fit in or do you prefer to

become an

anomaly because I'm telling you already

women don't desire the perfect man they

desire the one who with all his demons

well integrated keeps walking firm

without asking permission they desire

the one who doesn't submit to chaos but

contains it the one who doesn't dissolve

in his emotions but channels them the

one who doesn't give himself completely

right away but gives himself in pieces

always leaving something that can't be

fully

reached because in the end desire is

this a game of distances of what touches

but is not given of what insinuates but

doesn't explain of what could explode

but doesn't the one who learns to master

that game doesn't need to chase he is

chased he doesn't need to beg he is

sought he doesn't need to say he's worth

it because his mere presence already

shouts it and now listen carefully

because we're coming to the point where

many disconnect but you're not like the

others if you've made it this far it's

because you sense that what you're

hearing is not just about women it's

about you about who you really are when

you're not trying to please about that

man you've hidden out of fear of not

being accepted but acceptance without

authenticity is a prison with flowers

and there's something else no one dares

to tell you she doesn't want to conquer

you she wants to discover you and for

that you need to have something worth

discovering if everything in you is

served on a platter from the first

second if every emotion is delivered

without anyone asking for it if your

soul is on sale where's the magic

where's the

vertigo vertigo that feeling that mixes

fear with

desire that makes someone approach

knowing they could get burned but still

stays that's what makes a connection not

just another story but a mark that can't

be erased and that vertigo can only be

caused by someone who doesn't beg

someone who doesn't

adapt someone who doesn't lower the

volume of their essence to fit in a room

that doesn't deserve their presence

because there's one final truth no one

dares to

scream if you have to beg you're not in

the right

place if to be loved you have to

dissolve your character if to be desired

you have to pretend a softer version of

yourself you're negotiating your soul

for crumbs of

affection and you know

what she feels it too she may not say it

she may not verbalize it but in her most

primal instinct she smells it and when

she smells it she

leaves not physically maybe but

emotionally she leaves because no one

desires what they don't respect and no

one respects someone who doesn't respect

themselves so here it is clearly don't

change to please grow so that liking you

becomes a privilege don't show

everything you are make discovering you

a process not a presentation don't offer

your soul as a business card offer your

address and let only the brave

arrive and now we'll close this as it

deserves if any part of you has awakened

with these words if you felt that

discomfort that precedes transformation

then this video has done its job you

didn't come here just to understand

women you came to remember what you are

to reclaim what the world tried to take

from you with rules well-intentioned

advice and cheap validation this channel

isn't for everyone it's for those who

are willing to burn and

rebuild for those who understand that

desire isn't provoked from the surface

but from the roots for those who want to

stop being an echo and start being a

voice so if this has resonated with you

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phrase in the comments i'm not your

reflection i'm your

vertigo let it be known who is awake and

now listen to this final whisper as if

it were a tattoo for your mind

you're not just another man you weren't

designed to crawl you were born with the

ability to start fires in silences where

others only know how to

scream and when the world doesn't know

how to label you don't hold back smile

because those who can't be defined are

the only ones who truly matter see you

next

time and remember don't explain your

fire to those who only understand

ashes see

you in the shadows